I just mean that humans have wants, needs, desires...and that should be understood & discussed, not just dismissed.
Anyway... more of my random thoughts coming atcha :::wink::;
Its awesome when people can get together randomly to talk, but, and this is even better... to also be able to feel free, let go, joke around, be silly,,laugh, & just plain have fun...as opposed to our everyday life always having to worry what others may or may not like.
For that short time, there are no worries about that “real life” & negativity or judgement does not exist here. Only enjoyment of that moment.
Life is too short!
“Moments” really are all we have.
So we should absolutely enjoy the good ones, hopefully learn from the bad ones, but always cherish them all and never hate ourselves for anything we experienced because that’s just life.... a series of moments strung together, creating who we are and hopefully making us feel good when we think of some of them.
I read a few quotes that compare life to books. Making me think about how we could all be a book with the chapters being the different times or experiences we’ve had, but then I realized that some of us are wayyy more complicated than that.
Meaning, maybe no one will ever truly know exactly who we were once we are no more, but a precious few may come close or at least, closer than others have. I think those people will be rare and few, but not impossible to run into.
So in this world of make believe. Always hiding who we are, what we want to say or do, and how we really feel because the people in our lives, who “love” us, don’t really “like” many things that make us ... well... “us”.
The real us anyway.
So the life we live, where we chose to be who we need to be, in order to keep others happy, by only doing what makes ”them” happy... it isn’t really “your“ life anymore, is it?
Yes, it’s a life and it’s someone’s life .... it’s just not really yours...not technically anyway.
I don’t see the point in that, but I’m thinking no one would willingly chose to live that way either.
Its most likely a gradual thing that happens over time. Years of being told how to act or what to think by someone we trust to know what’s best for us, when really that’s what we should be deciding for ourselves.
We give more as they give less and then that’s all we know.
Whatever we used to want, is not the focus any longer.
Unfortunately it also makes it easy to be taken advantage of in order to keep control. To make sure our minds don’t go wandering anywhere that is unapproved by those in our lives.
It eventually just becomes our normal life and we stop noticing that we aren’t or haven’t actually “lived” at all.
We just learn that our needs are unimportant compared to everyone else’s and by wanting anything.,.we are just being selfish.
Unless...
Something opens our mind a bit.
Something makes us realize how special life really is.
Which brings me back to those rare moments where you thought your life was set ... whether you liked it or not, you assumed the time for new experiences or feelings had been explored already and you feel as good as you possibly could, your lucky even.., to have anything at all, and anything you thought you may have liked to do or feel is unimportant or selfish... you’ve learned to be good with it all and the only thing left was ...well..nothing lol.
Then life does that funny thing just when you thought you had it all figured out...
It throws a detour in your path and yeah maybe screws you up a bit or...
Maybe ... it’s another chance you were given to experience something else in life while you are still living?
I believe everything has its reasons and things come to you when you need them to sometimes.
We don’t always know why, but we can choose to learn more or ignore it.,.., but when life isn’t throwing good things at you regularly anymore, if ever, then maybe it’s something else..
We are always trying to expand and grow through our interactions with the world and the people around us. If we are isolated then we may stop evolving and if so, then what are we doing anymore?
I love meeting or talking to new people because it always gives me something, no matter how tiny or brief, it’s still contributing to my life.
I’ve always tried to keep an open mind and it’s created many exciting moments for me so I follow my gut when anything new happens.
when someone completely opens a whole new world of ideas to me that I never dared to even think of... I pay attention.
Basically.. I feel If anyone has opened themselves up to you in a way that made you feel as close to “being you” as you’ve ever felt, than those are the ones who will truly free your soul in ways you never knew you even needed.
Making you feel like you can breathe easy for the first time and realize how much you had been missing or just needing and weren’t getting.
I’m not talking about needing anything specific, just the fact that we’re only human and our needs are important ... all of us. I would want the person I love to have whatever made them feel good and feel as complete as they could feel. Most people’s needs are actually pretty simple. It’s a matter of caring about them receiving them even if they pretend they are fine without anything.
Not everyone tells you what they need but people your with and you know... well, you should “know”.
Wanting more from life isn’t selfish. Holding others back from feeling alive, that actually is selfish.
